How to Glorify God with Our Memories

I am 29 years old. Several years ago I first spoke the words, “That happened a decade ago,” and it was the strangest sensation. Now I’m starting to reminisce on things that happened fifteen, even twenty years ago, and it’s flat out kooky.

Another development I’ve noticed in recent years is the influx of nostalgia. In high school and college I had fond memories, but not many were nostalgic. Now ten seconds of Secondhand Serenade reduces me to a puddle of reminiscent goo.

Memories have power, and what we dwell on will invariably shape our emotions, attitudes, and beliefs (Isaiah 26:3; Philippians 4:8). Because of their unique power, we must be intentional with how we use them. Thankfully, God’s Word gives us much direction on how we can channel our memories for good.

Voluntary or involuntary?

Memories are complex. Some memories flood our minds involuntarily, such as those triggered by abuse or trauma. In these cases, much healing and help can come through the guidance of a therapist or another medical professional.

However, many of the memories we fixate on are voluntary, within our ability to control. In fact, God commands us to be intentional with our memories and even selective with what we choose to dwell on (e.g., Deuteronomy 6:12; 8:2; Isaiah 46:9; John 14:26; Acts 20:35; 1 Corinthians 11:24-26; Ephesians 2:11-13). Just as we are to take our thoughts captive to obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5), so too are we to take our memories captive.

How can we ensure that the memories we fixate on bring glory to God and life to ourselves and others? Consider five questions to help you determine whether dwelling on a particular memory is helpful.

1. Does dwelling on this memory deepen my gratitude?

Gratitude is the crown jewel of recollection, turning good memories into ongoing blessings (Proverbs 10:7). C.S. Lewis put it best in Out of the Silent Planet:

A pleasure is full grown only when it is remembered. You are speaking, Hmán, as if pleasure were one thing and the memory another. It is all one thing.

God created memories to consummate the joy of praiseworthy moments and to lead us into grateful praise (Philippians 4:8; 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). This gives us a quick test to determine whether dwelling on a particular memory is profitable: Does replaying this moment in your mind lead to gratitude for what you once had or discontentment for what you now have?

Interestingly, the tenth commandment (“Do not covet”) applies here. We tend to think of coveting as inordinately longing for something someone else has. But a more subtle form of coveting is inordinately longing for what we once had (or wish we once had). Both forms must be repented of—and both are best combatted with gratitude.

2. Does dwelling on this memory deepen my hope?

Remembrance is the linchpin of hope. Much of our disorientation in life is a product of forgetfulness—forgetfulness of who we are, who God is, what Christ did, how God views us, where we came from, or where we are going. Conversely, it is when our memories are most saturated with these realities that our hearts are most full.

Arguably the best way to combat inordinate longings for the past is to remember that our best moments in life are mere appetizers of what is to come. We don’t need to cling to an appetizer when the main course—of similar pleasure but greater fullness—is coming.

Often we think our longings are pointing backward when in reality they’re pointing forward. The ultimate fulfillment of our longings won’t come by going back to the past; they will come through God’s provisions in the future (Psalm 16:11). Rest in this hope!

3. Does dwelling on this memory deepen my commitment to truth?

George Ball observed, “Nostalgia is a seductive liar.” Often our memories play tricks on us, tempting us to believe that the past was better than it actually was. Solomon warns us of this danger in Ecclesiastes 7:10, “Say not, ‘Why were the former days better than these?’ For it is not from wisdom that you ask this.”

The ultimate danger of feeding nostalgia is not the immediate pain of longing for the past, but the damaging effect that it can have on our beliefs. Dwelling on skewed memories (whether exaggerated positively or negatively) can twist our view of God, others, and ourselves. We must catechize ourselves with God’s Word, not with our nostalgia. Memories will fail; God’s Word won’t (Matthew 24:35).

4. Does dwelling on this memory deepen my love for others?

Memory is gasoline without favoritism; it will fuel the fires of both bitterness and love, wherever we choose to pour it. Every time we dwell on someone’s past sin—replaying the memory of their offense again and again in our minds—we water the seed of bitterness in our hearts and it grows. This may feel good for a moment, but it always ends up harming us in the long run. It has been said that entertaining bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, and this is certainly the case with dwelling on bitter memories.

Meanwhile, intentionally recalling the good in others (and God’s mercy and love toward us) is one of the best ways to stir up love and compassion in our hearts (Luke 6:35-36). Just as God loves us by not keeping our sin on the forefront of his mind, so we are called to love others by filling our minds with praiseworthy things (Philippians 4:8).

5. Does dwelling on this memory deepen my love for the Triune God?

Remembering is at the heart of our communion with God and our liturgy as the Church. Preaching, singing, and reading Scripture help us remember the words and promises of God (Psalm 119:11; Proverbs 7:1-3). Taking communion helps us remember the person and work of Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 11:24-26). Observing baptism helps us remember how we were brought from death to life by the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 6:4; 8:11).

Ultimately, God gave us memory to aid our love for him, our appreciation for what he has done, and our anticipation of what is to come. Let’s be faithful to use our memories for these purposes—for God’s glory and our good.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn) (Tim Challies)Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings), and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Read “Overcoming Fear of the Future” here.

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Christian, You Are Fully Known And Fully Loved

There is perhaps nothing more desirable than to be fully known—completely seen and understood—and yet still loved. As Ed Welch put it, “To be truly known with nothing to hide … is life at its best.” 

Yet, while the prospect of being known brings excitement, it also instills fear. As Tim Keller put it, “To be known and not loved is our greatest fear.”

This paradox of emotions is what prompts us to be transparent up to a point but to stop short of full disclosure. We seek to share enough of ourselves to make us feel like we are loved and accepted for who we really are, but not enough to risk being rejected. Some walk this tight rope for decades. Yet, deep down, most of us sense that we were created for more.

To find clarity amid this paradox, we must understand where our desire comes from, where our fear comes from, and how the gospel speaks unrivaled hope into this clash of emotions.

Exploring Our Desire

While Scripture doesn’t tell us much about humanity before the fall, the Holy Spirit does give us two words to help us understand our sinless condition: naked and unashamed (Gen. 2:25). In other words, before sin, humans lived in the blissful freedom of being perfectly known and accepted by God and one another, without any fear or shame. Fully known, fully loved.

This glorious state is not only our origin; it’s also our destiny. One day we will know and be known fully, in a world of perfect love (John 17:3; 1 Cor. 13:12-13).

The first step in finding clarity amid our conflicting emotions is to recognize that our desire to be fully known is not sinful, but rather a healthy longing to relate to God and others in the way God intended. It is a God-given expression of our humanity.

Exploring Our Fear

After sin entered the world, our state of “naked and unashamed” was immediately replaced with a state of “hiding and afraid.” In the words of Adam, “I was afraid because I was naked. So, I hid” (Gen. 3:10). In the blink of an eye, the thought of being known morphed from a comfort to a threat. Tragically, this became the new normal.

At the heart of our fear of being known is a fear of rejection. And the most painful form of rejection is not being rejected for something we did, but for who we are. Notice that Adam does not say, “I was afraid because I ate the fruit.” He says, “I was afraid because I was naked.”

Adam’s sin plunged him into a deep sense of personal inadequacy and unworthiness. His sin created a separation between him and God and between him and Eve (Isaiah 59:2). He tried to repair this brokenness by covering up his shame, but it didn’t work. Even with his self-made covering, he still felt afraid (Gen. 3:8).

We’ve all felt this. Even in the moments that we think we’ve successfully hidden our flaws, we still don’t feel secure. In fact, hiding often amplifies our insecurity and anxiety (Proverbs 10:9). If hiding cannot give us the freedom we long for, what can?

The Gospel: “I know you and I still love you”

Perhaps there is no more comforting word in all of Scripture than the word “still” in Romans 5:6-8:

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly … God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Notice the recipients of God’s love: weak, ungodly, sinners. Next, notice the timing of God’s love: God loves us while we are still weak, ungodly, sinners.

This passage corrects at least two common misconceptions about God’s love. First, it makes it clear that Christ’s death didn’t “persuade” the Father to love sinners. That is not the gospel. God does not love you because Jesus died for you; Jesus died for you because God loves you! Second, this passage reaffirms that God is not waiting until you “do better” to start loving you. His love doesn’t fluctuate with your always-changing performance. According to Romans 5:6-8, God loves you perfectly, even at your worst.

The beauty of the gospel is not that we are strong and sinless, but that God loves us and rescues us while we are still weak and sinful (which, in turn, motivates and empowers us to pursue new obedience). As A.W. Tozer put it:

Jesus Christ came not to condemn you but to save you—knowing your name, knowing all about you, knowing your weight right now, knowing your age, knowing what you do, knowing where you live, knowing what you ate for supper and what you will eat for breakfast, where you will sleep tonight, how much your clothing cost, who your parents were. He knows you individually as though there were not another person in the entire world. He died for you as certainly as if you had been the only lost one. He knows the worst about you and is the One who loves you the most.

God’s message for you is this: I know everything about you. I know you are weak. I know you are ungodly. I know you are sinful. But I still love you. No, not after you clean yourself up. Not after you are glorified. Now.

True freedom

True freedom comes not when we have successfully hidden; it comes when we realize that we have been found out, but are still accepted, through God’s gracious love and forgiveness. Through faith in Christ—and by living in continual, true repentance—despite our weaknesses and sins, we can once again enjoy the freedom of being fully known and fully loved.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn) (Tim Challies)Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings), and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Listen to “Fully Known, Fully Loved” here.

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How (Not) To Pray With A Hurting Loved One

Note: This article is also published on The Gospel Coalition.

Praying with a hurting loved one is one of the most powerful ways to encourage her (Eph. 4:29; 1 Thes. 5:11), to sympathize with her (Rom. 12:15), to carry her burdens (Gal. 6:2), and to bring her into the presence and benefits of Christ (Ps. 145:18; Heb. 4:14-16).

As Charles Spurgeon remarked, “No man can do me a truer kindness in this world than to pray for me.”

Yet, there are a few common mistakes we can make when praying with others that can hinder the impactfulness of these moments. Below are four and how we can avoid them.

Mistake #1: Praying “fix it” prayers

Imagine your friend Sally just learned some bad news. She is really hurting. After she explains what’s going on, you offer to pray for her. What should you pray for? Consider the difference between the following prayers (and ask yourself which example sounds more like your typical prayers):

Prayer #1: Lord, help Sally to seek you. Help her to be consistent in her Bible reading and not to forsake spiritual disciplines. Help her to exercise regularly, meet with believers often, and maybe even talk to a counselor. Help her to keep Jesus at the center of her life and to focus on you instead of her circumstances. Amen.

Prayer #2: Lord, my heart hurts for Sally right now. Give us the strength to trust you even when we cannot see what you are doing. You have promised to be near to the brokenhearted, so make your nearness felt. You have promised to be a refuge in times of trouble, so let Sally feel your protection. O God, we don’t know what to do, but our eyes are on you. Come, Lord Jesus. Amen.

Prayer #1 is simply a “to-do” list for Sally. We might call this a “fix it” prayer. Notice that in this prayer, the primary person you’re asking to do things is actually not Jesus. It’s Sally!

Meanwhile, prayer #2 enters into lament with Sally. We might call this a “prayer of intercession.” The primary person you’re asking to do things is God himself.

There is certainly a time to give advice, but prayer isn’t the place for it. Prayer is not a free pass to share your opinions with the other person while pretending to talk to God (this is manipulative and the other person will feel it). Rather, prayer is an opportunity to join arm-in-arm with your loved one, to call on God to act, and to bring your loved one’s emotions and needs to God when she might not have the strength to do so herself.

Mistake #2: Skipping listening

Another common mistake is to jump to prayer too quickly, without taking time to listen and ask questions first. If we skip this step, our prayers will lack compassion and might even be misguided. One of the best ways to cultivate compassion and understanding is by asking searching questions before offering to pray. How are you feeling about this situation? What are you struggling with the most? How is this impacting your faith? How exactly can I pray for you?

In intercessory prayer, your job is to represent the person you’re praying for. You must be able to accurately enter into her emotions and needs and to communicate these things to God on her behalf. Your intercessory prayers should leave the other person feeling like, “She gets me.” This won’t happen unless you first take time to listen.

Mistake #3: Neglecting God’s promises

There’s perhaps nothing we need to hear more when we’re hurting than God’s Word. God’s Word gives grace to the broken (Acts 20:32), guidance to the lost (Ps. 119:105), hope to the hopeless (Ps. 119:114), peace to the fearful (John 16:33), satisfaction to the hungry (Ps. 81:10). When you pray, don’t depend on your words alone—pray the word of Life itself (John 6:68; Acts 5:20; Phil. 2:16).

My personal favorite passage to pray over hurting friends is Psalm 143:6-12. If you don’t know how to pray for a hurting loved one, open up your Bible and pray these verses for her. This prayer asks God to provide his presence, love, direction, deliverance, teaching, Spirit, protection, and salvation. Many other Psalms serve as ready-made prayers for hurting souls.

Mistake #4: Forgetting follow-up

When a loved one shares something vulnerable with you, she is entrusting you with one of her most precious treasures—her heart. Following up not only communicates that you value her; it also reaffirms to her that you are a safe person to entrust herself to.

A useful habit is to set a “follow-up with [insert name]” reminder on your phone for 2-3 days down the road (the best time to do this is immediately after the initial conversation ends). Don’t rely on your memory alone. A visual reminder helps protect us from being blindsided by the busyness of life and by the temporary lapses in memory that all of us are susceptible to.

Reflect Christ

Praying with a loved one is a powerful means of grace and a precious gift of God. Let’s steward this gift well by using it to reflect the person of Christ—who enters into our emotions with us (John 11:32-36; Heb. 4:14-16), who listens well (Ps. 66:19-20), who speaks words of life (John 6:68), and who never leaves us alone in our suffering (Ps. 34:18; Heb. 13:5).


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn), (Tim Challies), Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings),, and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Watch or listen to “Hope For Suffering Saints” here.

Read “Repentance That Leads to Death” here.

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Repentance That Leads To Death

Note: This article is also published on The Gospel Coalition.

“And they glorified God, saying, ‘Then to the Gentiles also God has granted repentance that leads to life.’” —Acts 11:18

Repentance is the lifeblood of every Christian. Without it we cannot enjoy freedom or fellowship with God—or with one another—in the way God intended. As Thomas Brooks put it, “Repentance is a continual spring, where the waters of godly sorrow are always flowing.”

Yet, there is an extremely common misinterpretation (and misapplication) of repentance that does not lead to life and freedom, but actually leads to death and slavery.

I know this from firsthand experience.

When we think about repentance, many of us rightly think about the phrase “to turn away.” That is, in fact, the definition of the Hebrew word שׁוּב (pronounced “shoove”). To repent means to turn away (or turn back) from something and to turn to something else.

But where we often go wrong is in what we turn from and what we turn to.

Turn! Turn! Turn!

Fill in the blank: Repentance is turning away from ____________ and turning to ____________ . Which two words did you pick?

For me—up until recently—I probably would’ve said that repentance is turning away from sin and turning to righteousness.

But a brother in Christ reminded me of something a few months ago that has deepened my hope and joy in repentance ever since. He said, “Repentance is not primarily turning away from sin and turning to righteousness; repentance is primarily turning away from sin and turning to Christ (cf. Luke 1:16; 1 Thes. 1:9).

This is a subtle yet incalculably important nuance. One version of repentance leads to death; the other leads to life. One version leads to slavery; the other leads to freedom.

Subtle difference, enormous implications

If we believe that repentance is primarily about turning away from sin and turning to righteousnesswith Christ omitted from the equation—then every time we repent, we actually perpetuate and deepen our commitment to legalism. If we think the chief end of repentance is a behavior—not a Person—then every time we repent, we reinforce an anti-gospel message which says that our hope is in our own ability to “do better” next time.

Consider the vastly different outcomes of these two versions of repentance. If our response after we sin is, “God, I promise I will do better next time!”, then our hope is in ourselves, and we are on a fast track to despair (Romans 7:18-24). But if our response after we sin is, “God, I need you—give me a fresh measure of Christ and all of his benefits!”, then our hope is in our perfectly faithful God, and we are on the path to joy, peace, and yes, sanctification (Romans 7:24-8:6).

But what about holy living?

If you are particularly sensitive to antinomianism, you may be suspicious of this notion of repentance. By making “turning away from sin and turning to Christ” the primary mark of repentance, do we throw out the importance of pursuing new obedience? By no means! (Romans 6:1-4). In fact, just the opposite.

Consider how the Westminster Shorter Catechism defines repentance that leads to life.

Q. 87. What is repentance unto life?

A. 87. Repentance leading to life is a saving grace, by which a sinner having truly realized his sin and grasped the mercy of God in Christ, turns from his sin with grief and hatred and turns to God with full resolve and effort after new obedience.

If we were to nuance my friend’s statement using the language of the Westminster Divines, it might look something like this:

“Repentance is not turning away from sin and turning to righteousness; repentance is turning away from sin [with grief and hatred of it] and turning to Christ [with a resolve and effort after new obedience].”

The difference between these two definitions of repentance is not that one includes a pursuit of righteous living and the other does not. Rather, the difference is that one makes righteous living the primary focus and the other makes knowing Christ the primary focus.

Ironically, when we make “sinning less” our primary goal in repentance, we often overanalyze ourselves to death, get caught up in despair, and fall flat on our faces. Yet when we make “knowing Christ” our primary goal in repentance, we often get caught up in his beauty and find ourselves bearing the fruit of sanctification (John 15:4-5).

Free to fixate on your Savior (not your sin)

Believer, God has fully taken care of your sin in Christ—meaning you are free to take your own performance off the throne of your heart and to allow Christ to have his proper place. As Robert Murray McCheyne memorably put it, “For every look at yourself, take ten looks at Christ.”

May this be our battle cry in every area of our lives—repentance included.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn), (Tim Challies), Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings), and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Watch or listen to “Forgiveness” here.

Read “Am I Sinning? Six Questions to Help You Navigate Gray Areas” here.

Read “Three Powerful Lessons From “American Underdog” (Kurt Warner)” here.

Source of modern version of WSC Q&A 87: R S Ward, Learning the Christian Faith : The Shorter Catechism for Today (Wantirna, 5th ed, 1998), cited in The Westminster Shorter Catechism in modern English with Scripture proofs and comments (online), 8 March 2022 <; .

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Three Powerful Lessons From “American Underdog” (Kurt Warner)

[Warning: Spoilers Ahead]

American Underdog is based on the inspiring true story of Kurt Warner (Zachary Levi) — a small-town Iowan dreamer who went from jobless, past-ripened NFL prospect to Super Bowl MVP and Hall of Fame quarterback. This movie also recounts the unlikely love story of Kurt and Brenda Warner (Anna Paquin), and Kurt’s personal journey in humility, faithfulness, and rest in Christ.

While not marketed explicitly as a faith-based film, the movie contains several references to Kurt and Brenda’s Christian faith, and it boasts a number of valuable life lessons about God’s purposes in our hardships. Below are three of them.

1. God often displays his power more through our supermarket moments than our Super Bowl moments (cf. 2 Cor. 12:9).

One of the most powerful parts of Warner’s story — perhaps even more powerful than his Super Bowl victory itself — is when he hits “rock bottom” — when his lifelong dream of playing in the NFL comes to a crashing halt, and he takes a job bagging groceries at a supermarket. The significance of this moment transcends Warner’s financial challenges; it symbolizes the end of an era — the end of a lifelong dream. By most accounts, Warner’s biggest aspirations were dashed, and everything Warner had worked for up to this point seemed to be for naught.

In an interview with People Magazine, Warner confesses both the difficulty and the unoriginality of this moment:

Most people have their “supermarket moment,” where they find themselves in a place they don’t want to be. They don’t know how they got there [and] they gotta do what they gotta do while they’re waiting for the next step.

For Warner, faithfulness in this moment meant setting aside his football dreams and working the graveyard shift to put food on the table. So — humbling as it was — that’s what he did.

While Warner enjoyed many glamorous moments in the years ahead, it’s this moment that many people remember and cite — it’s this moment that makes his story unique. Warner’s faithfulness in the midst of seemingly shattered dreams makes his successes shine all the more brightly.

Oftentimes it’s how we respond after being cut from the team — not how we respond after winning the Super Bowl — that people remember. It’s in moments of suffering that we have an opportunity to put the hope of the gospel on display in a uniquely powerful way (see Psalm 119:74-75).

2. God often transforms our greatest challenges into our greatest missional tools.

Arguably the biggest hero of American Underdog is Zach — Brenda’s blind son who repeatedly defies all odds (and continues to defy all odds to this day). Zach suffered a traumatic head injury as a baby, and his diagnosis was grim. If he survived, it was likely he would never be able to walk or talk again. Yet — miraculously — Zach not only survived, but he went on to live a walking, talking, and contagiously happy life (although he was never able to regain his vision).

Brenda powerfully recounts the first moment Zach and Kurt “saw” each other: “In a weird way — [Zach] being blind — it was love at first sight.”

As any parent of a child with disabilities knows, parenthood is one of both incomparable challenges and incomparable joy. Yet the unrivaled challenges that Zach and his family have faced have borne unimaginable fruit. In addition to the millions of people who have been impacted by Zach’s story through American Underdog (and through Kurt and Brenda Warner’s book), Zach’s victorious life also inspired Kurt and Brenda to open up Treasure House in 2018 — a supportive living community that has helped dozens of young adults with cognitive and developmental disabilities. You can learn more about Treasure House here.

The Warner family offered one of their greatest challenges to God with open hands, and God used it to bring life-changing blessings to countless others. Is it possible that God wants to use your biggest challenge in life to serve others, too?

3. God intends for us to live from a place of being loved, not to earn his love.

In a memorable dialogue and watershed moment, Brenda’s father asks Kurt, “Do you love her (Brenda)?”

Kurt replies, “Yes sir. I do.”

“I knew you did. Do you mind me asking you what’s holding you up [from marrying her]?”

After a moment of reflection, Kurt says, “I guess I just felt like I needed to prove myself first. Show her I was capable of doing what I set out to do. Be worthy of her.”

In one sense, Kurt’s words epitomize the way many people feel about God’s love. We live as if the gospel is that God accepts us once we prove ourselves worthy of him. Of course, this is the exact opposite of the gospel. Brenda’s father provides a helpful corrective in response:

“Hell, Kurt. Accomplishing one thing or the other is not what’s going to make you worthy of her. Life is not about what you achieve; it’s about what you can become.”

God intends to refine you into the masterpiece that he created you to be (cf. Ephesians 2:10) — but he is not waiting until you’re perfect to start loving you. As the Apostle Paul says in Romans 5:8, “God shows his love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Don’t miss the promise here: God loves you noweven while you are still a sinner. While other lovers say, “Earn my love by proving your worth,” Christ says, “I have proven my love by earning your worth.”

Applying These Lessons

Let’s strive for faithfulness in our supermarket moments. Let’s keep our eyes open for ways that God might want to transform our challenges into missional tools. And let’s rest from our tireless efforts to earn God’s love — living instead from a place of being eternally loved and accepted through Christ’s finished work on the cross.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn), (Tim Challies), Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings),, and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Read “Why Free Guy (Ryan Reynolds) Tugs at Our Heart Strings” here.

Read “Three Powerful Quotes from The Most Reluctant Convert (C.S. Lewis)” here.

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Am I Sinning? Six Questions For Moral Gray Areas

Note: This article is also published by The Gospel Coalition.

Below are 15 actions that some people see as sinful and others do not. Count how many of the following you deem as sinful.

  1. Making out with your boyfriend/girlfriend. (Y/N)
  2. Watching rated R movies. (Y/N)
  3. Listening to non-Christian music. (Y/N)
  4. Drinking alcohol. (Y/N)
  5. Swearing. (Y/N)
  6. Getting a tattoo. (Y/N)
  7. Attending a Halloween Party. (Y/N)
  8. Using social media. (Y/N)
  9. Binging on Netflix. (Y/N)
  10. Driving five MPH over the speed limit. (Y/N)
  11. Skipping church one Sunday to attend a big sporting event. (Y/N)
  12. Sending your kids to public school. (Y/N)
  13. Betting on sporting events. (Y/N)
  14. Spending money on luxury items (designer clothes, sports cars, etc.). (Y/N)
  15. Playing video games that contain violence. (Y/N)
  16. [BONUS]: Allowing your kids to do any of the above. (Y/N)

Interpreting Your Score

So … How many “Y’s” did you circle?

If you scored 10 or more, you are a legalist!

If you scored 5 or less, you are an antinomian!

Just kidding.

If you had trouble answering these—and you found yourself answering “it depends” for many of them—that might not be a bad thing.

Many Christians would label at least some of these issues as “gray areas” (i.e., not black or white). For the purposes of this article, we can define a gray area as an action that Scripture does not clearly identify as “sinful” or “non-sinful” for all people in all places at all times.

To say that another way, a gray area (biblically speaking) is any matter which is not clearly commanded, prohibited, or permitted in Scripture to God’s people.

Developing Discernment

Gray areas have always existed for believers (e.g., Romans 14:1-23). New technology and modern social issues certainly provide unique manifestations of gray areas, but gray areas themselves are nothing novel—Christians have always needed to exercise wisdom and discernment in myriads of life situations.

As Charles Spurgeon helpfully notes, “Discernment is not knowing the difference between right and wrong. It is knowing the difference between right and almost right.”

My goal in this article is not to give you my opinion on the morality of the aforementioned potential “gray areas,” but to give you several questions that will help you engage with any moral decision in your own life in a biblical and God-honoring way.

We can see these questions not as foolproof solutions to every moral dilemma we will face, but as trustworthy tools for Christian discernment.

To Act or Not to Act?

Whenever you aren’t sure if a particular action is sinful, ask yourself these questions before proceeding:

  1. Is the Holy Spirit convicting me that this is wrong? (See Romans 14:23; James 4:17)
  1. Is this action causing a brother or sister to stumble? (See Romans 14:20; 1 Corinthians 8:9-13).
  1. Is this action harmful to my faith? (See 1 Corinthians 6:12; 10:23)
  1. Is this action mastering/controlling me? (See 1 Corinthians 6:12; 9:27)
  1. Is this action causing me to be disobedient to someone who God has put in authority over me? (See Ephesians 6:1; Hebrews 13:17)
  1. Am I judging others who don’t agree with me in this gray area? (See Matthew 7:1-5; Romans 14:13)

If you answered “yes” to one or more of the above questions, it is likely that this behavior is sinful or at the very least unwise.

Of course, this is not an exhaustive list of all that the Bible says about gray areas—and there are many caveats that we could add here (e.g., how to tell the difference between Spirit-led conviction and legalistic guilt-tripping, how to respond to abusive authority, etc.)—but this list serves as a helpful starting point.

How Will God Judge Me in Gray Areas?

In order to answer this question, we need to do a little bit of theology.

God has two kinds of “will”—his hidden will and his revealed will (cf. Deuteronomy 29:29). Some theologians describe these two kinds of will as his will of decree and his will of command.

It is incomplete to say (as some have) that God’s will of decree is the aspect of God’s will that will certainly come to pass, whereas his will of command is left up to human choice. God will accomplish all that he has purposed (Isaiah 46:8-11); nothing is left up to chance. (Readers may refer to John Piper’s work on Providence for more information on this topic.)

Yet, there is a real sense in which God has kept some of his will hidden from us (e.g., whether to marry Christian A or Christian B, whether to live in Greenville or Dallas, etc.), whereas he has clearly revealed other aspects of his will to us (e.g., you should love your neighbor, you should repent of your sin, etc.).

So which aspect of God’s will are we going to be held accountable for obeying?

The Westminster Shorter Catechism Q&A #39 is helpful here:

Q. What is the duty which God requires of man?

A. The duty which God requires of man is obedience to his revealed will.

Obedience to God’s Revealed Will

The last two words of this statement are key: God requires obedience to his revealed will.

Deuteronomy 29:29 provides both the language and the justification for the Westminster Divines’ assertion: “The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but what he has revealed is for us and for our children forever, that we may keep all the words of this law.”

God is not playing games with you, seeing if you can “guess which hat” the sin is under, and if you guess wrong, you lose. He isn’t secretly wanting you to buy the red car—without telling you—and then punishing you for buying the blue car. This is not the kind of Father that God is.

God wants us to obey his commands in the black and white areas, and to seek his wisdom in the gray areas. He knows that we don’t know his hidden will (Psalm 103:14), and he doesn’t condemn us for that.

Applying These Truths

It is worth noting that it is possible for us to sin unintentionally—for example, if we break a revealed law of God that we were oblivious to.

The good news is that God’s grace covers both our intentional sins and our unintentional sins (see Psalm 19:12).

So let’s be diligent to repent of both our intentional sins and our unintentional sins. Let’s be committed to trusting God’s grace. And let’s be faithful to pursue obedience to God’s will in all areas—not because we are legalists, but because obedience to God’s will is best for us and honoring to him.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn), (Tim Challies), Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings),, and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

Have a question or further thought on this topic? I’d love to hear from you — leave a comment below!

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Overcoming Fear of the Future

Note: This article is also published on The Gospel Coalition.

“Hear my voice, O God, in my complaint; preserve my life from dread of the enemy … Let the righteous one rejoice in the Lord and take refuge in him!” (Psalm 64:1‭, ‬10)

Fear of the future—also known as anticipatory anxiety—is one of the most common struggles in the Western world, plaguing both young and old. This fear manifests itself in a variety of ways, including trouble focusing, racing thoughts, high blood pressure, and insomnia.

Perhaps you’re experiencing it now. You’re looking at your calendar and to-do lists for the next few months, feeling your stomach churn at the mountains ahead of you. Maybe you’re thinking about a relational conflict that will come to a head soon. Your heart rate rises as you consider the myriad of possible outcomes. Maybe it’s a big life change on the horizon—a move, a job change, a child going off to college—that’s keeping you up at night.

Beyond the physical symptoms, fear of the future wreaks havoc on our spiritual lives, filling our time with stagnant anxiety when it could be filled with spiritual vitality and growth. As Corrie ten Boom observes, “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.”

What can we do when we find ourselves paralyzed by anticipatory anxiety?

Battle of the Mind

Psalm 64:1 is a prayer we all desperately need to keep close—especially with a new year full of unknowns upon us: “O God. . . Preserve my life from dread of the enemy.” 

Most of our lives are spent not actually fighting our enemies, but only the dread of them. Often our deepest anxieties are not over something in the past—or even something in the present—but something in the future. The idea of what might happen. Something hypothetical in our mind. 

As Colin Smith remarks, “It is often the case that the fear of what lies ahead is actually worse than the reality itself.”

Yet we are called to take refuge in God not only when the future comes, but right now with our fears about the future (Ps. 64:10). As Paul writes to the Corinthians, we are to “take every thought captive to obey Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5).

If we do not take our thoughts captive, they will take us captive. And that’s exactly what the enemy wants. He wants you to be ruled by your worry and taken captive by your fears. Satan wants to double-dip. He wants you to live in despair while you’re in trials and to live in dread while you’re not. As long as he can keep you in dread or despair, he can keep you from joy.

Fortunately, we have a defense for both kinds of attack. God’s refuge stretches beyond the battlefield and into the barracks, where the battle of the mind is often fought.

Taking Thoughts Captive

The primary way we take our thoughts captive is not by suppressing them or distracting them, but by informing them—especially with God’s promises.

There are many promises we can turn to in our worry, but one of the most important (and oft-repeated) ones is God’s promise of daily provisions (Ex. 16:4; Lam. 3:23; Mt. 6:11, 34, 2 Cor. 4:16, Heb. 3:13).

Be careful not to miss the timing contained in this promise. If you don’t feel the strength right now to handle what will happen tomorrow, do not be surprised! God has not given you today the strength you need for the rest of your life. He doesn’t promise that. 

God does promise to give you today the grace you need for today, and he promises to give you tomorrow the grace you need for tomorrow.

Our mission is clear: Live for God today, trust God for tomorrow. The only thing that is certain about tomorrow is that God will give you fresh mercy for it (Lam. 3:23).

Ultimate Hope

We can have hope not because we know the future, but because we know the character and promises of God.

As Laura Dingman quotes, “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”

Our ultimate hope is not in our ability to figure out the future; our ultimate hope is in God, who holds the future in his sovereign and loving hands. God is for you (Rom. 8:31), he has good planned for you (Rom. 8:28; Eph. 2:10), he will never leave you (Heb. 13:5), and he will stop at nothing to deliver you from your enemies (Rom. 8:32). Let’s commit to trusting him today!

Prayer: Heavenly Father, forgive me for the countless hours I have spent needlessly worrying about the future (Matt. 6:34). Help me to trust your wise rule and loving heart when fears about the future arise. Be an anchor for my soul when the waves of life threaten to upend me (Heb. 6:13). Thank you for your presence, your promises, and your salvation — let me rest in these today. In Christ’s name, amen.

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The Only Person Who Can Complete You

“For in Christ all the fullness of the deity dwells in bodily form. And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all rule and authority.” (Colossians 2:9-10)

If romantic films had a “most iconic lines” list, Jerry Maguire’s melodramatic words to Dorothy — “You complete me” — would undoubtedly be near the top. (Dorothy’s response — “You had me at hello” — might crack the list, as well.)

Infinitely cheesy and the source of countless memes and GIFs, Jerry’s words are enough to make us all cringe or laugh (and then to quickly toss this line into our “too good to be true” mental trash bins).

But Mr. Maguire does not get enough credit. He actually had the right words — just the wrong person.

According to Colossians 2:10, there is one person who can complete us — Jesus Christ. However, Jesus is the only person who can complete us.

Why is Jesus able to do what no other human can?

Other people — friends, family, spouses — can give us all kinds of good things: love, companionship, support, inspiration, fun.

Unfortunately, no other person can give us the life we desperately long for. No other person has that kind of authority.

But Jesus does.

Notice the end of verse 10: “And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all rule and authority.”

The reason why Christ can complete us is because Christ is God. Verse 9 says that “in Christ all the fullness of the deity dwells in bodily form.”

Because Jesus Christ is both man and God, he has the authority to do what no other human can do.

  • Other humans can give us love; only Jesus can give us life.
  • Other humans can shape us; only Jesus can save us.
  • Other humans can complement us; only Jesus can complete us.

May we rest fully today in our only true source of life, salvation, and completion.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois. You can find more of his work at The Gospel Coalition.

Why “Free Guy” Tugs at Our Heart Strings (Warning: Spoilers)

Free Guy with Ryan Reynolds was released on August 13th, 2021, and is now available on Amazon Prime Video, Vudu, Apple TV, YouTube, and many other platforms.

[Warning: Spoilers Ahead]

The Plot

“Free Guy” is a story of an NPC (“Non-Player Character”) in a video game called Free City. There are three main characters in the movie: Guy (the NPC), plus Keys and Millie (the coders who built the video game, who are also in love with each other).

Guy becomes the first NPC in history to be freed from his never-ending loop of programmed phrases and routines, and to become a real “living” AI. This happens because Keys programmed Guy to feel an unshakable emptiness in his heart until he enters into a relationship with a girl who has the exact attributes of Millie. Of course, Millie is living in the “real world”—while Guy is living in the video game—but Millie enters into the game as Motolov Girl, and she “lives” and “speaks” through this character. Through Motolov Girl, all of Millie’s attributes are put on full display—enabling Guy to see Millie through Motolov Girl, and to be enlivened through her.

Once Guy encounters Motolov Girl, everything changes. He is freed from his enslaving daily routines, he becomes a better person, and he experiences true “life” in ways he never imagined possible. He also begins pointing other NPCs to the life that can be found by looking at the world through the glasses of Motolov Girl. At the end of the movie, Free City is transformed into a new city and a new earth—one where peace, love, and freedom reign.

Guy: The (Lifeless) Slave Set Free

Guy was (literally) programmed to desire Millie, and his heart would remain restless until he found rest in her. Until Millie entered into Guy’s life through Motolov Girl, Guy was without hope and without a savior in his world (cf. Ephesians 2:12). He was a slave to his routines, and he had no eyes to see anything different (cf. Matthew 13:16). But when he met Millie’s character, his eyes were opened and he saw the entire world in a new way. “It wasn’t until I met you that I felt alive,” he testified (paraphrased, cf. Colossians 2:13). Through his relationship with Motolov Girl, Guy’s desires were righted, his shackles were broken, and his life was transformed forever.

Motolov Girl: The Christ Figure

Although Guy was programmed to find true life through Millie, he had no way of meeting her unless she “came down” into his world. Until that happened, no other NPC (or real life player using the video game) would have Millie’s exact attributes—so Guy’s longings would never be met, and he would never be set free. But when the fullness of time had come, Millie sent Motolov Girl into Guy’s world (cf. Galatians 4:4) and revealed herself to Guy (cf. Colossians 1:15). Because Motolov Girl is the exact imprint of Millie’s nature (cf. Hebrews 1:3), she possessed everything necessary to set Guy free (cf. John 8:36). Through seeing Motolov Girl, Guy saw Millie (cf. John 14:9)—and by seeing her, he was changed forever (cf. 1 John 3:2).

Keys: The God the Father Figure

Even before he created the world of Free City, Keys loved Millie deeply (cf. John 17:24). He wanted others to enjoy her as much as he enjoyed her—he wanted others to join them in their love—so he wrote Millie into the story as Motolov Girl. His plan was for the characters in his game to be transformed by her beauty (cf. 2 Corinthians 3:18), so that Millie would be exalted (cf. Philippians 2:9). This plan succeeded—at the end of the movie, Millie felt noticeably loved and prized when she realized that Keys saved Guy and Free City through her. Millie was a gift to the world of Free City, and the world of Free City was a gift to Millie. All of this was accomplished because Keys loved Millie and the world he had created (cf. John 3:16).

Free City: The Broken World Redeemed

Free City is something of a postmodern Sodom and Gomorrah—ravaged by violence, oppression, and crime. What’s more, all of the NPCs in the city are enslaved and lifeless—trapped inescapably in their programmed phrases and routines, and seemingly unable to imagine life in a different way. Yet, as the movie progresses, it becomes clear that all of the NPCs have a deep desire to be set free and to live in a world of safety and love. By the end of the movie, Motolov Girl ushers in a new kingdom through a transformed people. There all of the freed NPCs live together in unending righteousness and happiness (cf. 2 Peter 3:13).

We are “Free City”

As is true with countless movies, “Free Guy” inspires us because it is based on a true story—on our story. Like Guy, our hearts are restless until they find rest in the Savior we were created to love. We are all naturally enslaved to our passions and dead in our sins, lifeless and unable to save ourselves. But God has written himself into our story by sending his Son, who died to set us free (cf. Revelation 1:5). By trusting Christ and his sacrifice on the Cross, we are given new life, new hope, and new freedom. And one day, our Savior will return to set up his kingdom, where we will dwell with him forever in a world of righteousness, peace, and love.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. He has been published by The Gospel Coalition and republished by Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy Alcorn), (Tim Challies), Moody Radio (Dawn and Steve Mornings),, and numerous other sources. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois.

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When God’s Impatience is Good News

“So they put away the foreign gods from among them and served the LORD. And His soul could no longer endure the misery of Israel.” (Judges 10:16, NKJV)

Bursting through the dark backdrop of the time of the Judges and Israel’s cyclical rebellion, God’s heart for his people is put on brilliant display. In just one verse, we get a stirring glimpse into the much-needed impatience which God the Father perpetually feels—not toward his children, but toward their suffering.

Like an intricate tapestry, God’s patience and impatience are woven together in the most unusual yet beautiful of unions. While God’s heart is wrought with “patience” toward sinners (2 Pe. 3:9), it is also heavy with “impatience” toward the suffering of his people (Jdg. 10:16, ESV).

Far from being distant, our God is “inwardly moved during our sufferings and trials with a sense and fellow-feeling of them” (John Owen). He knows every tear we cry (Ps. 56:8) and he longs to turn every tear into joy (Ps. 126:5). God simply cannot put up with our suffering forever.

God’s faithfulness is drenched in his empathy. And one day, God’s impatience will become our deliverance — he will wipe away every tear forever (Rev. 21:4), and bring us into a world of undying joy. His soul cannot bear to do otherwise.


Blake Glosson is a student at Reformed Theological Seminary. Previously, he served as the director of young adults at New Covenant Bible Church in St. Charles, Illinois. You can find more of his work at The Gospel Coalition.